What is it that makes a person beautiful?
As we peel back the layers of what it isn’t, that represents beauty we begin to discover it’s true and deeper meaning.
For many years I believed if I worked out to my max, I would become more idealistic. If I bought the right clothes they would make me feel more beautiful. If I bought the trendy make-up I’d be up-there. If I drank the fashionable drinks I’d feel the Shri (beauty). If I ran around doing everything before having food…I was taking care of myself, staying slim and that was beauty. If I hung around with the ‘in crowd’ I’d be more accepted and that would affirm who I was. If I just “got” this thing, outside of myself, that would be all I needed to be more perfect and more beautiful… If…if…if…when, when, when…
Why is it that some of us just can’t own our beauty?
Now, yoga revealed something rather interesting to me (once again, a 1008 pranams yoga). Had it not, I would probably still be doing the same things even now…
Anytime I started to become good at something by trusting myself: sports and fitness, my job, even yoga, who I am, how I dress, how I look, my close relationships, with others and myself (especially myself) pretty much anything… I would sabotage myself. Yes self-sabotage. (This was running rampant and sub-consciously) and before you say “this isn’t me” you will be rather amazed at what yoga can reveal to you that you believed “isn’t me”
All of the good things that were in my life and probably, sometimes, even now…I didn’t think I deserved. I had a very old story, which probably belongs way back down that ancestral line. I didn’t think I was good enough. I couldn’t own my beauty. I couldn’t own what I was good at and rightly deserved, even worked really hard to achieve! It scared me too much and I ran away from it sabotaging myself in the various cunning ways our sub-conscious works. I personally believe, “sometimes” even illness can be a way of self sabotage. And, finding fault, looking for what isn’t right so you can prove to yourself the story of not good enough. Not beautiful enough, not successful enough, not happy enough, not wealthy enough (insert any you might have lurking around right here) Not ready enough to make it work or even own it.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that frightens us.” Marianne Williamson
…so DO NOT listen to the magazines, the radical life change offers being sold to you, society’s definitions of beauty.
Back to my original question: what is it that makes a person beautiful?
It’s our story that makes us beautiful. It’s owning our story. In a million different ways, it’s not turning away from ourselves. It’s not criticising who we are and what we’ve got and are good at, by listening to the negativity committee in our head, or some of the people around us. What makes a person beautiful is owning all of who we are, even the parts we are not so keen on, especially those. Mainly, its never turning away from our light; it’s building the confidence to trust and share our gifts with the world and truly owning them.
Own your beauty now because that is beautiful and beauty, is an inside job that must be fully embodied.